当今夜不成功：浪漫关系中的性拒绝行为和满足感

When tonight is notthe night: Sexual rejection behaviors and satisfaction in romanticrelationships

James J. Kim , Amy Muise , John K. Sakaluk, Natalie O.Rosen, and Emily A. Impett

【摘要】在大多数长期的恋爱关系中，伴侣会经历性利益冲突，其中一个伴侣会拒绝另一伴侣的性行为。在研究1和2中，我们调查了人们拒绝伴侣进步的不同方式（即，以放心，敌对，自信和偏转的行为）。使用横断面（研究3）和日常经验方法（研究4），研究了人们如何拒绝伴侣的进步。对伴侣的拒绝行为的感知与被拒绝的伴侣的关系和性满足有关。我们发现有力的证据表明，感知到的伴侣放心的行为与更高的满意度相关，而感知到的伴侣的敌对行为与较低的满意度相关。感知到的合作伙伴响应能力是影响效果的关键机制。对自信和拒绝行为的发现是有限的，但是性排斥行为的效果由对性满足的敌对行为的水平加以限定。调查结果提供了有关合作伙伴可以拒绝对方的进步来保持满意的具体方式的第一份实证研究。

关键词：性排斥，满意度，亲密关系，性交，反应性

Abstract: In mostlong-term romantic relationships, partners experience sexual conflicts ofinterest in which one partner declines the other partner’s sexual advances. Weinvestigated the distinct ways people reject a partner’s advances (i.e., with reassuring,hostile, assertive, and deflecting behaviors) in Studies 1 and 2.Using cross-sectional (Study 3) and daily experience methods (Study 4), weinvestigated how perceptions of a partner’s rejection behaviors are linked withthe rejected partner’s relationship and sexual satisfaction. We found robustevidence that perceived partner reassuring behaviors were associated withgreater satisfaction, whereas perceived partner hostile behaviors wereassociated with lower levels of satisfaction. Perceived partner responsivenesswas a key mechanism underlying the effects. Findings for assertive anddeflecting behaviors were limited, but the effect of deflecting behaviors wasqualified by levels of hostile behaviors for sexual satisfaction. Findingsprovide the first empirical investigation of the specific ways partners candecline one another’s advances to preserve satisfaction.

Keywords sexual rejection, satisfaction, closerelationships, sexual communication, responsiveness

论文原文：Kim, J. J., Muise, A., & Sakaluk, J. K., etal., (2020). When tonight is not the night: Sexual rejection behaviors andsatisfaction in romantic relationships. Personality and Social PsychologyBulletin, 46(1), 1-15. DOI:10.1177/0146167220907469